April Spotlight Friday with Bernadette Chin Lee

It’s that time again!
Yes Spotlight Friday – and since it was Good Friday and I was unable to get to my computer I’ve moved Spotlight Friday to
Spotlight Saturday! (just for this month)
You’re probably wondering who is Bernadette Chin Lee!
Well if you don’t know, you’re about to find out.
As you know every month I spotlight a person who’s been very influential in my business.
As you can imagine I can probably list many people.
But this month I’m bringing it home.
Bernadette is my business partner.
And we represent Marketing Moms Trinidad!
This business partnership was born out shall we say “mere” friendship and mutual respect.

Bernadette as a Model Mother

Before we became business partners I already looked up to Bernadette because of how she lives her life!
I wanted to be a really good wife and mother.
Now I’m not saying that Bernie (or Aunty Beenie as my 20 month old daughter calls her) is a perfect wife and mother,
but she has sure set a good example for many young mothers to follow.
Bernie is the mother of seven!
Yes I said it seven!
So where does my spotlight Friday mother find time for a business?
I wondered the same thing until I watched her.
When I saw what she was doing through Elite Marketing Pro I realized I needed to pay CLOSE attention.
You learn best from leaders if you observe carefully what they do.
Yes you listen to everything they say. But more importantly you have to observe and follow what they do.

Business Lessons from Parenting

Let me give you a parenting example.
When my daughter starting trying to speak (remember this is my first child) 
I was in the company of Bernie and her husband with Olivia my daughter.
I would show her an object and say “A Ah Apple”
“B Buh Book”
and so on and so forth.
They both cracked up at me!
Bernie said that I would confuse the child!
“Don’t worry Hilary she will figure out the sounds. You don’t want her going around saying a ah ah apple. B buh buh buh book!”
Just say the words naturally and she will catch them.
The second parenting example was specifically what words to say.
I realized that Olivia loved to tell me “No”
“Have you ever counted how many times you say No to her?” was Bernie’s question to me.
Being an engineer I took her up on the experiment.
Apparently in hour of Olivia being awake and running around I said the word “No” 32 times!
No wonder all she says back to me is “No”.
So you know what word I’ve been trying to remove from my vocabulary.

Being a Mother and Being a Business Owner

But you’re probably wondering how does that translate to business.
They are not that different as Bernie has been able to show me over the past few months of working together.
Building an online business takes breaking down old habits and forming new ones.
Bernie has been instrumental is helping me along that path especially with my “human interactions”.
I don’t want to, nor like to admit it, but I do fall into that stereotype of Engineers not being “human”.
We like to put everything into a process, into a system, into something NOT human.
Bernie has been helping me understand not only how to raise my daughter but also how to deal with people.
For example one of my biggest fears is interacting with people.
That’s why I choose my particular profession of engineering.
That’s also why I secretly love online marketing.
That’s why I don’t like going out!
I’ve been to more social events since starting to work with Bernie than I’ve been to in the last five years.
And yes it’s uncomfortable.
Yes I have no clue what to say or do, but I’m doing it.
Because she’s a great mentor when it comes to dealing with people.
She pushes you out of your comfort zone.
And the beauty is we help each other.
If you’ve dealt with seven children I’m pretty convinced you can deal with anything and anyone! (My mother-in-law demonstrates the same characteristics)
(in case you’re an engineer like me and you didn’t understand that reference to my mother-in-law. My husband is the first of seven) 
And if you were born into Facebook like I did then I have a few things I can teach her.
Our mastermind builds each other.
Yes she is the spotlight for this month but I’m sure I’m a spotlight for her as well.
We lean on each other for so many things that we really do make a wonderful and dynamic duo.
Cheers to my spotlight business partner this month!
I could not have made it to where I am without your help!

I’m Hilary De Freitas
Online Marketer, Engineering Nerd and Mom
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Hilary De Freitas is a wife, mother, engineer and marketer. She is dedicated to helping mothers build a successful online business from their passions, so that they don't have to choose between career and family. Hilary has been involved in network marketing, affiliate marketing and digital marketing consulting for the past 10 years. Some of the links in this post are 'affiliate links.' This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission.

    6 replies to "April Spotlight Friday with Bernadette Chin Lee"

    • Francene Stanley

      Loved that example of how many times the mother said no to the child. That’s really powerful.

      • Hilary

        It was an HUGE eye opener for me!

    • Bernadette

      Thanks Hilary for your awesome words!
      One reason I thank the Lord for everyday is my love of life and people. You keep my light lit.
      Thank You and God Bless!
      I look forward to more greatness from you!

      • Hilary

        You are most welcome. You have joined the ranks of one of the many leaders who have helped me do just what I’ve always wanted to do And become a leader in my own right.
        Thank you.

    • Leanne

      Sometimes it is easy to over look the people closest to you! It is wonderful that you have such a great person to help guide you through parenthood. We all need friends like this!

      • Hilary

        Yes we do! and I am ever so grateful.
        Thanks for your comment.

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